Bridging the Confidence Gap
The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology published an eight-year study by Wiebke Bleidorn, Ph.D. analyzing data from over 985,000 men and women across 48 countries. The
study found that, regardless of culture or country, men report higher self-esteem than women.
While the study could only speculate about causes, it has found that the disparity in confidence between men and women is universal. This gap in self-esteem is especially concerning given that confidence is the factor that turns thoughts into action. There is a cycle that can work for or against us. Belief in our ability to succeed stimulates action which, in turn, bolsters our confidence in our ability to succeed. The result of low confidence is less action. Holding back means we miss opportunities for success which builds self-esteem.
Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, authors of “The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance: What Women Should Know” offer some basic advice for women - think less and act more. This is valuable advice and can be done without dismissing some valuable feminine qualities such as intuition, introspection, sensitivity and relatedness. To bridge the confidence gap, develop skills to better integrate action with feminine qualities and seek the support needed to take right action and more risks.
Renee Ellis, MA LPCC RMT with Live Your Knowing Counseling offers healing, counseling and classes to help bring wisdom to life. Renee can be reached at [email protected] or 720-984-9575