The CHOICE To Heal From LossSep 02, 2020 10:08AM ● By Renee Ellis
We Humans are pretty remarkable. Everyone experiences some kind of loss – a relationship, a career, a home, a dream, a way of life or our health status. In the depths of our pain, we wonder how anyone ever loves again, builds a new business, heals physically, takes another risk, or transforms their lives.
The remarkable part is that we do.
Some of us are better at this than others which may be due to something called Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG). Originally theorized in the 1990’s, PTG is the positive psychological change that can happen following challenging life events. PTG is the opposite of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Where PTSD ultimately sets long-term wellbeing back, PTG can actually leave someone better off.
Social media is full of examples of PTG in action when groups are formed in response to tragedies such as Mothers Against Drunk Driving or Black Lives Matter. Lucy Hone’s grief led to her authoring “Resilient Grieving” and a neighbor surviving hunger leads to the formation of a food bank on the local Nextdoor website.
The opportunity to pivot toward growth is a result of recognizing that there is a choice to be made. Actions that demonstrate a propensity toward growth and healing are:
• Seeking novelty and embracing new opportunities.
• Investing in and enjoying existing personal
• Practicing gratitude for ourselves and our abilities.
• Deepening spiritual connection.
• Finding a way to serve others.
It’s important to know that experiencing potentially traumatic loss doesn’t have to be a self-fulling prophecy. When facing the life challenges that we would never have chosen - remember - we have a choice.
For support in transforming loss into powerful opportunities for personal growth contact Renee Ellis, MA LPC RMT of Live Your Knowing Counseling at 720-984-9575 or [email protected]